Why Can't I Let Love in?

Dear friends of Reconnection Centre,

Do you easily and openly receive love? Are you so full of love that it naturally overflows from you, like an overflowing fountain, so giving love is just the natural state for you?

Most of us have been brought up to give love, to do things for others, we would do anything to make others happy, we would please others, try hard and even go out of our way for others. We were thought that this is love and to give is to do good in the world. We were also thought that if we love someone we do things for them out of love, we give. Giving love is second nature to us.

And what about if we are on the receiving side? Most of us are not sure how to receive love and we might say "ahh don't worry about me" or "you didn't have to do this" or "I am fine, I don't need anything", "I can do it myself, thanks" or how about "are you sure"? as if we need to make sure that the other person is truly sure about what they want to do for us. We often don't know how to respond when we receive love, we feel sort of awkward. We feel that we have to return the compliment or the gift, that we have to give, by making it up to them, to make it equal.

Our connection with our Higher Self has been also weakened, we learned to disconnect from the subtle inner voice of the Higher Self that prompts us to self-love and self-nurturing.

If we always just give and not receive, what happens is that the energy of love will dry up inside of us and we will feel empty, unhappy, frustrated, sad, angry, and exhausted. When we disconnect from our Higher Self we don't longer know what is true for us and what is not, we don't longer feel or sense the true and we become lost. This disconnection can create lots of pain and suffering.

Through my spiritual journey, I have learned the hard way, after a few burnt out, I learned finely to take care of myself, to nurture myself, and to open myself to all the love that is available to me. God is love and so All is love. When we open to all the love, wisdom, abundance, gifts, knowledge we are open to love and we fill ourselves with love until it overflows and is lovingly shared with others. This way we don't deplete ourselves. Our giving comes from the overflow, not from the need to give.

Our state of worthiness, self-acceptance, and self-value naturally grows and we become happier and healthier. It is when Loving become

Receiving.